Maybe you could hire some help ! She isn’t taking advantage but trying to better herself for her family. She is doing it out of love for all of you. Taking 3 classes to get done faster must be hard on her and she is doing it so she can be done with it and be with her family Perhaps you can approach it differently. Be more supportive and understanding. Explain that you don’t really have a problem with her doing this but that you want to spend more time with her (not that she doesn’t need another degree and she is taking advantage) My mom always said you get more flies with honey then vinager.

Well I personally am doing my MBA now and yeah I pretty much cannot even have a decent relationship, and I could not even imagine having to care for a family.

The hard part is, once you commit to that degree you need to follow through and yes, taking that third class makes a HUGE difference in your completion date.

However, I also think you know what, too bad too sad, she already decided to be a wife and mother to THREE kids and now she is trying to reclaim her school girl youth?

I would be pissed too.

And just a little piece of info. My neighbor’s wife pulled the same crap and eventually ending up leaving the kids with the father. Sad, just sad.

We women really need to step up and BE what we REALLY want to be. Not settle.

you should be supportive… obviously this is important to her and supporting her is alot better than nagging her about it. I understand that she didnt consult you. You should express your feelings to her and let her know that it bothers you that she makes changes like this without telling you…. if she wants to go to school, she should be able to….

three words me me me i take it u have a high maintanence wife u should take a night course in assertiveness fast and after that take up golf …take care

Education is never a waste. Maybe she is lifetime learner. I am in a similar situation. Luckily my husband has supported my decision and has helped around the house while I finish my education. I think that maybe you need to discuss with her that the “full-time” schedule might be a little stressful on the family. But, dont discourage her from feeding her mind.

I can understand why you are frustrated but your wife is right. The more classes she takes the sooner she will be done. It’s not going to be forever. And even if she is doing well in her career, extra education cannot hurt, only help in the long run. She’s doing it to better her family, so hang in there.

Well, regardless of whether or not you think she needs more education, this is for her and she is doing it for her reasons so respect that. I don’t think you’re wrong to be irritated because if she is making these decisions by herself without talking with you, your husband, then that is wrong. Marriage and any relationship need communication and to know that you’re there for each other to talk about anything that comes up. You taking care of the house and kids is something that you and your wife should share but she shouldn’t expect you to do all of it by herself and then there is no time for you two to have your time. Even though the more she takes, the faster she’ll get the degree, she still needs to remember that she has resonsibilities too and that you needing to talk to her is something she should be okay with and not just shrug you off. I would seriously sit down and talk with her about things. Good luck, you deserve to be heard.

If this is something your wife wants to do, let her do it. She is right, the more she gets done now, the quicker it will be over.

And it doesnt matter if you dont think she needs another degree, thats not your place. If she isn’t completely satisfied in her current career or at her current job, or even just with her level of education she’s not going to be happy until she does this.

Taking care of your kids 3 nights a week is nothing. There are 7 nights in a week, right??

Your wife is trying to better herself for you and your family. And how in the world is she taking advantage of you? You’re not babysitting, you’re parenting and doing what parents do. Its your JOB to take care of your own children. She’d be taking advantage of you if she were going out getting drunk every night – but shes going to college.

Try to hang in there. She’s right about finishing faster if she takes more classes. It’s never easy on the spouse when the other is taking classes. Plus she’s working too, right. So, at that pace, she may decide she needs to cut back on her classes on her own. Although she should have discussed it with you as it Is a Major adjustment for the entire family. Good Luck !!

First off she should have spoken to you before she decided to increase her school load, this was a very selffish decision on her part, she is after all first and foremost a mother than a wife, her family should always come first above anything else, as it should with you also.

Having said that, i would talk with her tell her how you feel, and ask her to cut back, you both need to compromise with one another this is what a successful married couple does.

I can understand her reasoning that the more work load she takes the faster she will complete her schooling, but not at the risk of her famiy suffering should she be doing this..

And as for her degree, if your wife feels that to increase her self worth by getting another degree than you should support her on this but as long as the family comes first and all of your needs are taken care of first before her school work…
You did not make the children all by yourself, and every child also needs their mother other than 10 minutes here and there….

This will give you leverage when you speak to your wife, but do not force your wife to give up her desire or dreams, just cut back for the sake of the family..
Also tell her that you miss the time alone with her, and you really need more time with her just the two of you..
Sounds like if your wife takes on all of this schooliing including on line courses and holding down a job full time, she is going to get burnt out, you may tell her that you have this fear…

Best of Luck

It sounds like she is a very driven lady. If you try to hold some one back who is driven they will just resent you.

You need to sit her down and get her undivided attention. Explain that it is very important to you for her to include you in her scheduling. Stress this to her and then see if that helps in the future.

Try to hire some help if you can to take the load off of you.

Only time will tell on this one. She is just trying to be sucessful. I know you think she is sucessful enough but to hear that would probably make her angry. My husband is the same way. He is going to be learning and changing until he dies. Everytime I try to get him to slow down he tells me that he has to learn and get better. He is not going to take some pittyful job and settle.

Make sure the 2 of you have a plan for her next schedule and I hope it gets better. Wait and see what she does next semester.

As hard as it is Boss, be patient. Take her to the side on a Saturday or Sunday and tell her how you feel. Explain to her you dont wanna keep her held back, but she needs to prioritize…it’s just not going back to school, watching and caring for the kids, but it’s about yalls relationship and how yall are a team. Ask her how she would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. MORE THAN ANYTHING, reassure her that you support her in her decisions and ventures, but you need to be part of the decision making process.

It’s not about her doing her thing and you stuck at home…it’s bout yall sharing in the process together and for her to remember she has a family…and even though it may take her a little longer to get through…she’s missing time with her family now…time she cant get back.

Best of Luck!