it’s he’s way to control you.
you shouldn’t let him.
it’s your money so do what you want

Money (or the inability to handle it) is the #1 cause of divorce.

What did my wife and I do? We opened one joint checking account and one joint savings account two months before we got married and put EVERYTHING into them. Next we did a budget (that included spending money for each of us) to make sure all the bills were paid and necessities were taken care of and even nonessential were provided for!

That was 13 years ago and we have NEVER fought over money! ! !

A budget doesn’t constrain you, it frees you to spend wisely!

i think u should save money some for urself its nt like u have to give all the tym i mean now its ur tym to take some steps n also ask ur husband that he should contribute n do the same thing

Well your first problem is him having access to what you bring home, but you not having access to what he brings home. That’s crazy and it is a control issue on his part. My husband and I have our own accounts, but our names are on each other accounts so we both have access to them. I usually don’t go in his account and he usually doesn’t go in mine. However, we both know that if needed, we can withdraw or deposit from each others account. Now it seems like your husband is letting his control issues get in the way of his 2yr olds future. Why are you paying 70% of the bills? First thing you need to do is make it clear to your husband that you are not going to stop contributing to your son’s college fund. Next, you should let him know that if your name isn’t on his account, then his name is going to be taken off yours. If I were you, I wouldn’t put all the money together. Your husband sounds as if he is trying to control you. Money breaks up a lot of marriages, you should sit him down and have a serious talk with him. Afterwards, throw some of those bills his way.

I guess is a matter of trust more than the money itself. Now days, we have couples who both earn money, but it’s impossible to expect both to earn the “exact-equal” amount of money. You can agree to share it all together, or go for separate accounts, but I don’t understand completely…he has access to your money, you don’t have access to his and now he is complaining? hmmmm……I admire your trust, you must love your husband a lot, but maybe you should talk to him and make a decision together, whatever that is, based not on the money itself, but on how much you trust each other. Money issues are nasty, because they are always related to how much you trust that person (and who says husband, says friend or colleague or family). Maybe sometime to think is also needed, but talk first. Communication is key on any relationship. I wish you all the luck.